take initiative or assert himself so as not to be an imposition. He incorrectly assumes that by doing what she asks he is making her happy. That’s how a guy thinks: “If I want something, I’ll ask for it.” But what a woman typically wants from a man—particularly in the area of romance—is for him to, very literally, take her up into an adventure that is larger than her own pursuits. She is not fashioned to have a man come alongside her, simply living with her and staying out of trouble. At the core